5 Positive Soothing Phrases to say when your Child is Crying

5 Positive Soothing Phrases to say
when your Child is Crying

No mystery that hearing our children cry makes us self-conscious. Imagine how restless you feel when your little one tears up without an obvious explanation. We know that an infant’s principal method for conveying is to cry, yet we actually view at it as something to be “fixed.” Once that baby starts walking and talking, we in some cases expect from them that they should deal with feelings the manner in which we do, as opposed to the manner in which they know ie; through crying.

According to researchers, it is discovered that our brains are set up to have an instant reaction to a crying kid, making us more attentive, mindful and prepared to help — and real fast. A crying baby sets off our survival reaction – flight or fight response, expanding our pulse and driving us right into it, regardless of even if that child isn’t our own.

It appears we need to respond to a crying baby, yet how?

1. It’s OK if you’re sad. Even I went through phases.

We all live in a world where it feels like it’s not ok to be sad. It’s a fantasy world where we can be happy all the time. Well, that just a fantasy, it’s not real. There are ups and downs. Life is hard and there are bumpy roads. Allowing your child to understand that it is ok and perfectly normal to feel sad will ensure that they are not ashamed to feel that way.

Crying is a healthy, natural emotional release for kids. By telling kids to stop, we’re basically saying their feelings aren’t important.

2. You seem really frustrated! And It’s completely okay, I’m here for you. Wanna share?

Sometimes kids just have a really rough day. A series of overwhelms may cause them to break down and you’re not really sure what triggered the crying.

In this case it’s best to just have a positive attitude and be there with them.

Stay close by, hold them, rock them, put a reassuring hand on their shoulder. Just wait with them until the storm passes and let them know you’re there.

3. I know you’re tired. I’m sorry sweetie...

You can follow this up with some positive phrases like, “I’ve kept us out too long, we’ll leave soon and you can rest.”

Sometimes kids break down out of sheer exhaustion! Maybe you’re out and and nap time got missed.

Let them know you understand how tired they are and that you’ll let them rest as soon as you can.

4. I am listening to you

When a child is upset, the last thing they want to hear is advice or to be told to stop crying. When someone is upset, they want someone to listen. So, hone your listening skills in this scenario; don’t talk, listen. It will provide a space where they can vent and express the negative feelings that they’re experiencing; you’ll see how supported they feel in this scenario.

5. I know, it doesn’t seem fair.

Kids don’t get to make the rules. They also don’t have much control over how their day will go.

Which, as you can imagine, can feel overwhelming and unfair. In cases like this, it’s best to just empathize. Be available for them. Just listen to their sharings and vents.

Other phrases that you can use

Let’s take a break.
Would you like help/a break/to try again?
I can hear you are crying, but I don’t know what you need. Can you help me understand
Let’s come up with a solution together
Hey Champ, why the long face? Why don’t you sit down and tell me what’s wrong?
Look at me in the eye. Mommy is there for you and I know it’s hard, so talk to me.
Why don’t we go out for a break and have some fun?
Do you mind if I sit next to you. How is your day going?
I know, I hated that stuff too! Tell me what’s making you cry. I’m all ears.